Good Manners in Iran: 3 Tips for Travelers

Good Manners in Iran: 3 Tips for Travelers

MIR’s Director of Sales and Iran Travel Expert, Joanna Millick, has traveled to Iran numerous times and jumps at any chance to visit again. Want to know more? She also put together this travel video to share her 4 reasons to travel to Iran.

MIR's Joanna Millick on her autumn 2013 tour of Iran Photo credit: Joanna MIllick

Joanna making friends on her most recent tour of Iran
Photo credit: Joanna Millick

American travelers to Iran are often surprised by the warm welcome they receive.

In Iran they really roll out the red carpet for Americans, and want to speak English with you and take photos of you. This is genuine and comes from the heart. 

That said, there are some long-standing traditions and some modern rules that may be unfamiliar to Iran-bound travelers. Here are three ways to help you navigate them, and come away with a richer travel experience.

1. Just Say No

There’s a custom, or way of interacting, in Iran that your guide may have to help you negotiate. It’s called taarof, and it’s about hospitality, good manners, and being the best host ever, and it’s a cornerstone of good manners in Iran. What it means for the traveler is that an Iranian person will offer you the shirt off his or her back, but good manners require that you refuse it.

For example, on my first trip here, I came alone and traveled only with a guide. A gentleman in a coffee shop got to chatting with me in Farsi. My guide was translating for both of us, but when the man invited us to his family’s home for a meal, the guide stopped translating and seemed to be arguing with him. I tried to make my guide tell me what was going on, but he wouldn’t talk about it until we had taken our leave of the man.

Greetings in Iran. Photo credit: Joanna Millick

Greetings in Iran
Photo credit: Joanna Millick

He finally explained that the man in the coffee shop was just practicing taarof. He described it as kind of a dance where a stranger will offer to give you something, or to pay for a meal or invite you to stay overnight at his house. The person will insist strongly, arguing and pleading, but the recipient is expected to argue just as strongly against accepting the offer. Usually, if the person is still insisting after three refusals, then the offer is real and can be accepted without being rude. But first you must always refuse.


It’s like what we do sometimes in the U.S., when we say, “Yes, we have to get together for lunch some time,” but then don’t make a plan or suggest a date. It’s polite, but it’s not real. It’s like saying, “Oh no, I couldn’t,” when someone offers you a slice of cake – you are being polite, but hoping they will insist and you’ll get to eat it anyway.

So many Iranians speak good English that it’s easy to communicate, but when the local person begins to offer something, the national guide may interrupt and take over the conversation. The American thinks, “Why is the guide being so rude?” but the guide understands the customs.

Friendly smiles in IranPhoto credit: Joanna Millick

Friendly smiles in Iran
Photo credit: Joanna Millick

2. Modesty Matters: Wearing Hijab

In Iran, it’s not merely good manners for women to dress modestly, it’s a requirement. Hijab, the Islamic behavioral code, is all about modesty, and it goes for men as well as women. (Muslim men are directed to “lower their gaze” and refrain from staring at women.) Most familiar, however, is the dress code element of hijab, which consists mainly of a handful of unwritten rules for women.

Islamic modesty for a woman means wearing loose clothing that doesn’t emphasize the body, covering most of the hair with a scarf or shawl, and exposing only the hands and face.

Hijab in Isfahan, Iran's Imam Square. Photo credit: Joanna Millick

Hijab in Isfahan, Iran’s Imam Square
Photo credit: Joanna Millick

This is far from an insurmountable barrier to visiting Iran, and the challenge can be interesting. Modern websites such as feature modest and modestly-priced separates with up-to-date names, such as dusters, shrugs, and pullovers that you can mix and match. Simply wearing loose (at least not skin-tight) pants under an amply-cut dress is fine, but you might want to look at photos on the internet to get Islamic fashion ideas. Iranian women, especially the younger ones in Tehran, know how to dress with style and flair within the parameters of hijab.

For more on the how-tos of hijab, see our blog post,
Looking Good in Iran.

 

MIR tour group with imam in Iran. Photo credit: Joanna Millick.

A MIR tour group with an imam in Iran
Photo credit: Joanna Millick

3. Follow the Leader

U.S travelers in Iran, while warmly welcomed, must be accompanied by a guide as they move about the country. This means you’ll almost always have your own English-speaking guide with you, whether you’re in a group or traveling solo. It might sound like a constraint, but it’s really very helpful and informative to have a local person explaining things and helping you get around.

But that doesn’t mean you won’t be able to connect with people on the street. Kids especially will spontaneously say (or yell) “Hi,” or “Hello,” and you can surprise them by responding with the Farsi version of hello, “Salam.” “Thank you” is even easier. It’s the same as the French merci, but spelled “mersi.” “Please” is “lotfan.” These words will stand you in good stead all over Iran, and add to the feeling of being welcome here.


Travel to Iran with MIR 
Magnificent blue tiles atop Sheikh Lotfollah Mosque in Isfahan.Photo credit: Lindsay Fincher

Magnificent blue tiles atop Sheikh Lotfollah Mosque in Isfahan
Photo credit: Lindsay Fincher

MIR has more than 15 years of experience hand-crafting tours to Iran. Our full service, dedication, commitment to quality, and destination expertise have twice earned us a place on National Geographic Adventure’s list of “Best Adventure Travel Companies on Earth.”

You can visit Iran in a number of ways: on a small group tour, on a rail journey by private train, or on an independent trip put together just the way you want it.

Chat with a MIR destination specialist about travel to Iran by phone (111-111-1111) or email today. 

Our team has an insider’s knowledge of what to do and see in Iran, and we would love to help you craft a tour that satisfies your curiosity about this ancient and modern country.

Top photo: Tehrani girls. Photo credit:  Ann Schneider

PUBLISHED: November 15, 2017

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2 thoughts on “Good Manners in Iran: 3 Tips for Travelers

  • Andrea Bault

    Very interesting information. This article makes is more appealing to travel to Iran.

  • Wearing halal Islamic clothing that represents your culture, there are great online portal who offers huge collections for women to dress modestly